Single Believers - Are you REALLY Trusting God?

I'm sure most of us are familiar with this famous passage of Scripture:
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

I can hear some of your thoughts now, "I know. I know. How many times do I have to hear that Scripture?" But even though you may have heard it, and may even know it by heart, have you really received it?

When I think of the word, "trust," I think of an absolute confidence in. I have absolute confidence in the fact that when I enter a movie theater and have a seat, the seat won't break underneath me. I trust so much that I don't even bother to check and make sure it's firmly affixed to the floor. If I did folks would probably look at me like I was crazy, because they trusted so much that they, too, sat right in their seats without thinking about it twice as well.

The word, "trust" in the original Greek of this passage of Scripture means, "batach," which means to be confident, bold, or sure. As single believers, we must learn to be confident, bold, and sure in the Lord about everything.

The Scripture also admonishes us to trust in the Lord with all of our heart. Not just part of our heart. Not just one part which says, "I trust you Lord," while the other part says, "but what if I never get married?" or, "what if I never meet the right one for me since the odds are stacked against me?" or, "what if I get too old and men would no longer find me attractive?" These heart confessions are filled with fear which is contrary to faith, belief, and trust. And we know that God is not the author of fear, but that He is the author and finisher of our faith.

The second part of the verse 5 says, ...and lean not unto thine own understanding.

The Message Bible states in its translation: ...don't try to figure out everything on your own.

Don't try and figure out why you're still single while getting yourself all stressed out and blood pressure rising because you feel your time is running out or your biological clock is ticking. Sometimes we put ourselves in such a rut feeling sorry for ourselves - thinking we must not be wife material - or, "if only i looked a certain way i would be married by now," - or, "if only I lived in a different city I would be married by now," - or, "if only i went to a different church i would be married by now," - and on and on and on...

Instead of chasing a man, we should be focused on chasing God and the perfect will of God for our lives.

This is not to say that there is anything wrong with desiring a mate; we just have to be careful not to allow our "desire" to turn into an anxiety or care, because God wants us to cast all of our cares on Him. He bore all of our cares for us when He died on the cross. (Isaiah 53:5)

He wants us to be content where we are right now in our current station in life, and He wants us to celebrate the birth, death, and resurrection of His Son, Jesus, not just on Resurrection Sunday, but every day with our lives.

He wants to resurrect our joy. He wants to resurrect our peace. Jesus died so that we might have joy, and that our joy might be full - whether we're single or married. (John 15:11)

So instead of asking yourself if you're really trusting God for a mate, instead ask yourself if you're really trusting God with your life.